Dating a physically disabled person

I've had lengthy conversations with men who are shocked that disabled people have the same sexual desires as them and have sex lives too.I recently spoke with a guy I was at school with and he confessed that he liked me at the time, but couldn't figure out how or if I could have sexual relationships.Sometimes I have good weeks where I'm all about it — but the majority of the time I have to really focus to get in the mood.

Woman C: POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome), a form of dysautonomia. Woman A: I've had my fair share of disfiguring surgical scars and my disease can mean fluctuating weight, but it also makes me appreciate all the things my body can still do.

Woman B: I am paraplegic due to a spinal cord injury. I've had depression on and off since I was 7, and anorexia for the last two years. How has your disability affected your relationship with your body, for better or for worse?

Woman A: Dysautonomia, which causes chronic fatigue, dehydration, fainting, and I also have an immune deficiency disease, which means I have a greater susceptibility to infections and a harder time than normal fighting them off. Woman D: I've had Ehlers-Danlos all my life, but it got a lot worse when I was 23.

Woman C: Because of my specific disability, I have to be almost hyperaware of my physical body and specifically my heart rate at all times.

In reality, I have carers and whilst a partner may do some aspects of care, I would want to maintain a high level of independence.

Woman E: My current boyfriend feels protective toward me, but there's no negative impact because of it.It can be frustrating that everyone just sees you as a friend and it can feel like no one has considered finding you attractive.I think there is also an assumption that if you date someone with a disability, you will become their carer.Honestly guys, I'm simply paralyzed, I didn't have my vagina sewn shut!Woman C: When I was using a wheelchair, people most often assumed I was not sexually active, or I was fetishized by "wheelchasers." Even my doctors were hesitant to talk about my reproductive health or contraceptives when I "had so many other things to worry about." Woman D: I think people see me as a non-sexual being.Woman A: Fatigue and GI issues are a large part of my disease, so it's difficult for me to have spontaneous sex and that can be a downer.

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